History has taught me that sex does change things. It matters more than some people want to admit. After all, Ive talked to friends and some would not even consider dating a female or male if the intercourse was not acceptible. Likewise, some will not participate in the act until marriage. There are conflicting views on the subject, but one thing is clear, sex is the most talked about subject in todays time.
In a world where sex and sex appeal is promoted there's no reason why everyone talks about it. Kids are having sex at younger ages and those who aren't are considered to be missing out. Relationships have been started on good sex if not great, but is that really the foundation that needs to be in place for a relationship to work? Why does sex make a person love a person more? I believe a relationship can not survive with just good sex, but it can balance out the lows of one. But it gets complicated...
There are those that participate in intercourse with their spouse and/or casual partner, but do not want to do oral, anal, and other types of sexual activities. Some people just are not into those things and some require more than just regular sex. The topic gets very broad... There are so many factors to consider. Those who have sex want to try different things (oral, anal, etc.) because regular sex just isnt enough anymore, those who have bad sex look at their partner differently afterwards, and those who choose not to participate in intercourse miss out on meeting half the world and starting a relationship built on core values because most will not give them the time of day.
Leave you opinion... Is sex a must in your love life? Will you stay with a person after having consistent bad sex? Does Sex Really Change Things? What Do You Think?
I think sex is an important aspect of a relationship but I do not feel that it is a deal breaker. As I have gotten older I feel that "mind sex" is more important than physical. I was in a relationship where the sex was bad but because we were connected so deeply on an emotional level, that didn't phase me.
ReplyDeleteGood post and as far as what I think! Well, I hope for myself that sex wouldn't be a must. Then on the other hand a good sex life is said to ease frustration and I can get really frustrated sometimes. Secondly, when your with someone it takes time to build a healthy sex life so, consistently bad sex will change. Lastly, yes sex does change things! Good stuff. Looking forward to more.
ReplyDeleteI believe people and men have gotten off track with the word "sex". Half the time men dont want to date you or talk to you if they know it will be a while before getting it or not get it at all. I believe love should come from inside factors and not deal around physical looks and factors. I think people need to grow up and stop thinkin with their hormones. Sex is great, but I believe that it should be an add on or a plus to what you already have. I believe that people are missing out on good people and things because of two minutes of pleasure......!
ReplyDeleteIf the person i'm with can not please me then my mind starts to wonder about the next guy.I believe thats why people end up cheating. Personally good sex and friendship is the first thing I look for in a guy. With me if he is good in bed and do things the way I like, i'm willing to work on anything that may come up in the relationship. I'm just being real.
ReplyDeleteUHMMMM....SEX IS NOT A MUST IN THE BEGINNING OF A RELATIONSHIP I THINK BECAUSE TO ME, PERSONALLY, I'M TRYING TO GET TO KNOW THAT PERSON AND WANT THAT PERSON TO UNDERSTAND WHERE I'M COMING FROM, WHAT I EXPECT IN THE RELATIONSHIP AS WELL AS WHAT HE EXPECT AND WANT! NOW IF I LIKE THIS PERSON AND WE HAVE THAT CONNECTION AND HE LIKES ME AS WELL THEN SEX WILL BECOME A FACTOR...NOT A MUST TO ME BECAUSE I CAN BE AROUND A PERSON THAT I LIKE AND WE NOT DO ANYTHING! ALTHOUGH ITS BOUND TO HAPPEN...WHICH EVENTUALLY IT WILL:-) IT DOES CHANGES THINGS! FROM A FEMALE POINT OF VIEW..SHE WILL LIKE THE GUY MORE...SHE WILL EXPECT CERTAIN THINGS FROM THIS GUY NOW...MORE ATTENTION..MORE PHONE CALLS..MORE SEX IF IT WAS GOOD...LOL! NOW ABOUT THE BAD SEX...FIRST IF IM REALLLLY FEELING THIS DUDE AND WE TOGETHER AND THE SEX IS BAD..I WOULDN'T LEAVE HIM I WOULD JUST LET HIM KNOW HOW I FEEL ABOUT AND HOPE HE IMPROVES..IF NOT I WOULD HELP HIM BECOME BETTER...LMAO! BUT THIS IS A VERY INTERESTING TOPIC YOUNG STACKS!!!!
ReplyDeleteI think sex is very important in a relationship. I probably wouldn't get into a relationship if I knew there would be no sex. In general, I believe a relationship should come first for the simple fact that men seem to lose respect/interest in a woman that treats sex casually. If a relationship comes out of casual sex, I think that's great.
ReplyDeleteAs far as bad sex goes, I believe that a strong connection with someone goes a long way in making sex good. However, I wouldn't stay if the sex was bad.
yooo stackers sex sexx sex..its everywhere! but if u care about the person and the sex is n the sex is always bad u just goin to have to be patient and keep practicing.. so they can learn what u like and dont like... speakin frm experience this guy just wasnt good wen we first started but then he became the best ive had! people should be up for tryin new things not sayin everytthin is good for everybody ie(anal)
ReplyDeletethis can get really complicated.. For me, i believe that if your really into someone..you should wait to have sex with them..let feelings evolve then comes the sex..if your friends with someone and you guys have sex..it could make things really awkward..but it really just depends on your personalities. i do believe that sex changes things..and also that sex is an important aspect of a relationship..not the most important though. i personally need a man thats open-minded in the bedroom & likes to have fun..someone that is boring and old-fashioned doesn't cut it for me. that is just how i am though..it varies for everyone..anyway great post..keep 'em comin!
ReplyDeleteGreat comments but yea like most subjects to each it's own... It's just not enough to be old-fashioned in the bedroom anymore... I think we all can agree on that
ReplyDeleteI think sex has a lot to do with relationships, but it's not everything. You can have a meaningful relationship without sex or even with bad sex. I think sex is more of an emotional thing, esp when in a relationship and if you love the person the sex can be what you make of it, whether or not it's bad. But I do think you need to have a physical attraction, meaning you need to want them, in order to be in a lasting relationship. Everyone has basic instincts and that is a primary one.
ReplyDeletesex is very important in a relationship but i think being connected on a mental level might be more important.I think bad sex means different things to guys than girls.Most girls once we have that emotional connection we in it to stay guys dont settle so easy they always thinking there is something better i think girls have alot of pressure to be good and please their man because if you dont they are gonna look elsewhere.for me sex is a must @ a certain point in a relationship and i do think that it needs to be good some men cant get better in bed and some or to selfish to try and sex does change everything in a relationship sometimes for the good sometimes for the bad
ReplyDeleteto answer a couple of yur questions...(1) sex is not the actual foundation of a relationship its the bandaid that keeps it together for a while...but a relationship generated from good/great sex is generally founded on physical chemistry/attraction/appearance...but like a bandaid the bond or adhesiveness that makes it stick and stay wears off eventually and then there we go disposing that bandaid and putting on a new one if the wound hasn't healed enough to our personal satisfaction...wat most people are doing wen they generate relationships from sex, be it good great or bad, is covering up wounds from a past hurt..."looking for love in all the wrong places" and in all the wrong ways...(2)how does sex make a person love another more...? simple...it doesn't...it makes them lust after them more...but because lust is so closely associated with love it often lowers a veil over our eyes causing us to believe that we love someone wen beneath the veil we are really lusting after someone...we all know that wen telling someone that we love them we're SUPPOSED to mean that we're IN LOVE with them...meaning we're in love with who they are FIRST without the accessories being added unto them then for wat they have to offer SECOND/LAST whether they're able to offer it for the rest of our lives or not...BUT (3)NO SEX IS NOT A MUST IN ANY RELATIONSHIP I PURSUE but honesty loyalty respect responsibility and trustworthiness and open-heartedness is...
ReplyDeleteok...so Sex matters [p e r i o d] Lust is the biggest temptation of all!! ...Sex has become so causual in today's society that people have sex before they even know the most important things about a person!However its not the foundation that needs to be in place for a relationship to work! i mean any person who bases their relationship off of the sex has to be dumb! Because GREAT SEX CAN BE LEARNED!! I dont think sex makes a person love a person more. Of course porno's are embraced more, so in a guy's eyes they want their "pinky"'s, and "buffie the body"'s, &etc in bed but thats just a figment of their imagination. If a relationship is down sex is not the only way to spice it up! If you really love someone you will make it work! I mean sex does changes things whether its with soemone causal or with a significant other! But some people are too narrow minded and just sees sex as gettin a nut. So either way they dont care. But to me sex is a form of expression! SO YES SEX IS A MUST IN MY LOVE LIFE! But im willing to say with a person after having consistent bad sex!.....Like i said before GREAT SEX CAN BE LEARNED!! If you want that freak in the bed you have to be willing to teach and they have to be willing to learn.
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In our society today, sex is an undertone in everything we talk about, we see in the media, and plays a major role in relationships. What ever happened to dating??? i dont mean people "talking" to each other, I mean going out in public, to spend time with each other, go to dinner, see a movie, go bowling; ANYTHING but "hanging out and watch a movie" or "chill at my place". Cmon girls, now a days, when guys say that, we all know what the under lying message is there. lol
ReplyDeleteI feel like there is no balance in a relationship anymore. If you rush and have sex or fool around the first time you meet someone, that relationship will be based off what happened that first night; however, men now a days usually get fed up when a girl "holds out" on them and move on because they know another chick will give it up easier.
But all this really does depend on the the two people in the relationship. If you ae lucky enough to find your true soul mate then sex doesnt have to change anything. But for the people filtering through all the bullshit out there today and settling, yes, sex is going to play a very big role in their relationship because if they are intent on being in a relationship, sex has to be good for them to stay.
Just seems like there is so much pressure to perform now a days.
Yes, I believe that sex is important within a COMMITED relationship. Sex is where one can release and relieve stress. Everybody has heard of make up sex...after a fight with a spouse or partner sex can remind ppl of the connection and love they feel for one another. As from experience if you dont enjoy sex with your partner you lack the feeling of connection and communication. Communication is not only through verbal words but also through physical contact. A relationship without good sex WILL NOT SURVIVE the test of time. Many marriages end because spouses dont not have a healthy and satisfiying sex life.
ReplyDeleteSex changes things more than anyone wants to admit because it is an important factor in relationships; however, it should not be the most important!!Those relationships that are solely based on sex become boring over time because there aren't other aspects to keep the relationship interestin. When you connect with someone emotionally, mentally, spiritually, physically, and sexually then it will make the sexual aspect even better because you will try your best to please your partner so he or she will not step out of the relationship. To some sex is extremely important that they will look for someone who pleases them sexually and miss out on true chemistry which is sometime why people stay in abusive relationships because the sex is so amazing. Not only do some people stay in relationships that are not good but also some people will not give other's a change because they aren't as good in the bedroom as they want. However, there is always room for improvement and being with someone who truly loves and cares for you whom you connect with should be more important than finding someone who can give it to you like no one else!
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